It’s possible to be driven and have peace!
Most driven entrepreneurs don’t experience inner peace. The tectonic plates below the surface are always shifting, and their central nervous systems are always uneasy and amped up. There’s inner turmoil, and it doesn’t have to be that way.
We, the driven, are never satisfied, always striving, always thinking that the next win is going to fulfill us, only to continue to feel empty, unfulfilled, and wanting.
When your drive is coming from the outside-in, you can never be satisfied, fulfilled, or peaceful. Outside-in is ego-based from competition, comparison, and judgment―which is an endless doom loop.
When your drive is coming from inside-out, you feel whole, complete, and lacking nothing. Inside-out is your True Self, your intuition, a calling, your vocation―which is fulfilling, timeless, and peaceful.
The only way to shift from an outside-in drive to an inside-out drive is to dissolve your ego’s power over you and let your soul lead the way.
Decisions from the inside-out are from your True Self, or soul, and are love-based. Decisions from the outside-in are from your ego, and are fear-based. Your ego has created a structure that has your soul trapped in a prison. This structure that your ego created was to protect you. Its intentions were good. It doesn’t ever want you to feel pain again. Your ego is simply your powerful mind being put to use for all the wrong reasons. Your mind is a powerful and useful tool meant to serve you, especially as a driven entrepreneur who has to solve 10 times as many problems as the average human being.
Your mind is so powerful that it created a reality that is false, and it has you trapped in there thinking that what you’re experiencing is reality. It’s not. You’re living an illusion. The illusion is made up of your fears that aren’t real. They’re stories you made up. They’re not real. And, therefore, the way you’re seeing the world isn’t real.
It’s now time to see life as it is. To bring down the veil and let life in. You are safe. You are held. You have nothing to fear. It’s time to let go and shine! It’s time to let your soul lead. Time to thank your ego for protecting you and helping you get through some pretty tough times. But you don’t need your ego anymore.
It’s that simple, just not that easy. It should be as simple as―for example―realizing that you fear being alone, or that you might not feel safe, or that you’re not good enough. And then, with that realization, knowing none of that is true and letting it go, which will be followed by a sensation of bliss, peace, safety, connection, and self-worth.
Sadly, most can’t shed those symptoms that fast and have to endure hours, weeks, months, and even years of therapy, meditation, education, and deep work, maybe along with some plant medicine, silent retreats, and a sweat lodge or two―all of which are good and helpful, and sometimes necessary, to dig into your inner story or the root of those symptoms or “blocks.”
It’s necessary to do some digging and excavate what’s going on inside. You might discover that the reason you don’t feel safe is that your parents never really protected you or you were abused. So, you go to the roots of that, forgive, and let it go.
You might realize that why you fear being alone is that you felt abandoned by certain people in your life and you dig into exactly what happened, understand why, and then forgive and shed that block.
You might uncover that the reason you don’t feel good enough, or feel inadequate, or have shame is that you were never paid attention to or felt love as a kid, and as a result, you have always sought approval, love, and recognition. This block, too, can be obliterated and eliminated.
Whatever you uncover, this can all be shed, and you can take the long road or the short road. The bottom line is that it’s not real and it can be shed. Your ego is making you believe it’s real, and, remember, its intentions are good. It doesn’t want you to ever feel that pain again, like a protective mother.
So, the idea is to simply pay attention. Be aware, be present, be conscious. You will then be able to see when your ego is running things, and, therefore, you will also start to know when your soul is showing up and leading the way.
Simply put, when it’s your ego, your thoughts, feelings, and emotions will be fear-based and from the outside-in. And when it’s your soul, your thoughts, feelings, and emotions will be love-based and from the inside-out.
If you give this the necessary time and focus (and it’s different for everyone), something magical will happen. You will start to shift from fear-based living to love-based living. Your heart will open up, you will start to shine brighter, and you will start to feel more peaceful, blissful, and fulfilled.
You will start to make better decisions, you will become more creative, you will become more free, and you will start to make an even bigger impact on the world. You will be guided by something much more powerful than your mind, and you will attract more of what you want in your life.
You will be more driven than ever, and you will experience true inner peace. In this state, with your soul leading the way, you can use your mind as a tool to help you think, process, and strategize, where you are using your mind and your mind isn’t using you.
Most of us on this planet are walking around in this fear-based, ego-controlled state, and, sadly, in that state we are easily manipulated, fearful, depressed, and controlled. When the ego dissolves and the soul is free and leading the way, it’s impossible to be manipulated, afraid, depressed, or controlled. You can only be peaceful, clear, blissful, creative, energized, and conscious.
Please join us on the journey to help 8.5 billion people on this planet shine. It starts with you shining first.
This is why Rob and I wrote Shine. It is the how-to manual for this. Please read, study, and treat that book as an operating manual to let your True Self shine.
If you’re looking to understand where you are on your journey to being driven and having peace, please take the True Self Assessment.
If you know you would like to join us on this journey to shining, please join us in the next session of the Group Coaching Program.